This has been on my mind the last two weeks or so. I'm such a stricked schedule enforced nanny. Don't get me wrong, we have a ton of fun but they respect me.
When the kids parents are around its like I don't even know the kids....they have little respect for there parents and I, they run a muck, yell, scream, throw tantrums about anything and everything...as soon as mom and dad leave I start enforcing our routine and they snap out of it...any tantrum behavior lingering I just set them in time out and then talk to them...I will only need to do this some mornings or after they talk to there parents on the phone...after that they are fine! They do as they are told, take naps when I ask and follow the rules I've given them....all kids do act out here and there for attention or because they are tried or hungry.... normal...but for a solid hour of whining and tantrums are not.
I feel like the parents always overly call, text or helicopter because they feel like there kids are out of control and don't know if I can handle it, but in reality because of structure it is always easy until they step in. When I tell them one is napping and the other is playing quite, they all have had the same reaction of what did you do with my kids... as if I stuffed them in a closet or something!
My concern is: are my kids going to do this to me? Am I going to get lazy and just let them walk all over me? Am I not going to care as much about schedule and discipline because its "easier"?
Every family I've nannied for its been the same deal as above...most of my friends that have kids (NOT ALL) but most have problems with raising there kids and let them run the show, so when they go to tell them no its a big drawn out ordeal...it's NEVER my place to tell a parent how to parent...that would lead to defensiveness, and who really wants to deal with that.
I don't feel like this will happen to me, I treat Autumn the same way as the kids I nanny, but with a lot more cuddling and hugs....but will it be different when I give birth and have this baby attached to my hip 24/7 will my effectiveness fade away and just get lost in bad habits and routine over the years?
Maybe because I've seen the rights and "wrongs" of raising children I can avoid this? I can be aware of the changes in behavior in my child and see what habits I'm in and change them before they turn into habits... Ultimately I feel like a child feed's off your habits and behavior's, so if your child is acting out its something the parents are doing or exposing them to.
I guess I won't REALLY know until I'm in the situation years from now. Until then I'll be pregnant and sassy <3
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